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Ask Tara 3 — Changing Gender Dynamics in the Workplace


Author(s): Scott Douglas Jacobsen

Publication (Outlet/Website): The Good Men Project

Publication Date (yyyy/mm/dd): 2019/03/04

Tara Abhasakun is a colleague. We have written together before. I reached out because of the good journalism by her. I wanted to get some expert opinion on women’s rights, journalism, and so on. I proposed a series. She accepted. Abahasakun studied history at The College of Wooster. Much of her coursework was in Middle East history.

After graduating Tara started blogging about the rights of women, LGBT, and minorities in MENA. She is currently a freelance writer. She is of Thai, Iranian, and European descent. She has lived in Bangkok and San Francisco. Here we talk about updating gender dynamics in the workplace.

When I opened on the conversation on the newer open channels of talking about sexual misconduct, in not only work and but almost all situations – personal and professional, I wanted to get Abhasakun’s opinion on the ways in which this, specifically, would impact the workplace dynamics of the genders.

Abhasakun stated, “I think that in the beginning, things may be a bit rocky because many people are afraid about false accusations and the idea that anything they do will be read as misconduct. I think that in light of the #MeToo movement, we are seeing some of the frustrations over this issue fizzle out.”

Abhasakun views much of the expressed frustration is, basically, from men who are real misogynists. Those men who feel as if every interaction with women can be seen as harassment or potentially branded as such.

“I don’t have all the answers. But I think the beauty of the #MeToo movement is that we are HAVING these conversations. This is only the beginning, and I think the reason we see this type of tension, awkwardness, and frustration is BECAUSE we are finally addressing issues that, for a long time, have been swept under the rug,” Abhasakun opined, “We are seeing the birth pangs of the movement, now that men and women are thinking about these issues. We are starting to answer questions such as, ‘How much touching is appropriate in X situation?'”

Abhasakun finds these frustrating and, indeed, hard. Because this is simply, not merely, the beginning stages of these forms of discussions. She estimates another generation before clearer answers begin to come forward on these questions.

“But I think that as we continue trying to answer these questions, things will settle down, and hopefully one day we can have a world free of all sexual violence and misconduct, though that day is probably far off in the future… I believe that we need to be careful in prescribing one exact “remedy” for sexual misconduct,” Abhasakun concluded.


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