Ask A Genius 1274: ‘Sex Tricks’ and Time for Bed
Author(s): Rick Rosner and Scott Douglas Jacobsen
Publication (Outlet/Website): Ask A Genius
Publication Date (yyyy/mm/dd): 2025/02/15
Rick Rosner: Richard May—the guy you’ve talked to a lot. He’s a completely reasonable person, not weird in any way. He’s got a wicked sense of humor and behaves like a normal guy. For every Keith Raniere serving a life sentence for running a sex cult and committing financial exploitation (often described as stealing tens of millions of dollars), there are, by my estimate, perhaps eighty or a hundred individuals with very high IQs who aren’t involved in any cult. This ratio is an anecdotal observation rather than a rigorously established fact. I have one cult member, but that’s just me—I’m my only member. I’m constantly pressuring myself to jerk off, even though I’d rather go to bed.
Let me explain: if you’re sleeping with someone for the first time (when they see you naked as a guy for the first time), and if you get a chance, turn away from them and grab the head of your penis. Stretch it out for three seconds so that blood flows into it—assuming your penis is flaccid (which it should be at that point). This maneuver, based on my personal experience, makes it appear more than an inch longer than it was three seconds ago. Of course, if things are so hot and heavy that you’re already in the process of undressing completely, that’s a different situation. But if you’re still clothed and in the process of undressing, in that brief moment when you tug and stretch, your partner (she or he) will see the change. It might just be a neat little sex trick.
There are other weird sex tricks, too—the ice cube trick, the handkerchief trick, and so on. When we were kids in junior high, we were taught that there were certain arcane pieces of sexual knowledge that, if you mastered them, the person would be yours forever—if you so desired. Of course, we were all idiotic little kids, years away from having sex with anyone other than ourselves.
As an addendum, I was recently talking to Lance and JD about how many women they’ve slept with. I didn’t get straight answers either, whether on camera or off. I’ve slept with sixteen or seventeen different women. In junior high or high school, it was all about “what base did you get to?” and later on, “What’s your number?” But now, quite reasonably, that emphasis on sexual conquest has largely faded. There’s less focus on racking up sex points and more on the overall vibe. The people who used to worry about not getting laid or not having a girlfriend were probably in the minority when I was a teen—and they’re even more of a minority now. There’s so much more to life.
And when you’re involved in social, sexual, or relationship contexts these days, people aren’t as obsessed with tallying conquests as they were in the seventies or eighties. The emphasis has shifted toward vibing with one another. I’d be hard-pressed to define that precisely, but it’s nice to have friends rather than just people you can bang. Friends can mean a whole lot more. I’ve got many Twitter friends I’ve never spoken to in real life or over the phone; we just like each other’s tweets and occasionally leave comments.
Scott Douglas Jacobsen: Do you have a topic in mind, or should we adjourn until tomorrow?
Rosner: We should adjourn until tomorrow. That sounds good.
Jacobsen: All right, thank you very much.
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