Ask Pardes 7a: What best makes a good man to you?
Author(s): Scott Douglas Jacobsen
Publication (Outlet/Website): PardesSeleh.com
Publication Date (yyyy/mm/dd): 2017/11/03
Scott Douglas Jacobsen: What best makes a good man to you?
Pardes Seleh: A good man is someone who neither oppresses his woman for being a woman with domestic duties, nor treats as if she is a victim that needs special treatment. A good man is simply a good person.
He is one who has good intentions and good morals, regardless of whether he is interacting with a woman or a man. He treats his female partner the way that he’d want to be treated.
The good man doesn’t have to be a feminist. Feminism is a facade. I think feminist men often like to think women are victims so that they can be saviors. It is understandable. It is a natural thing for a man to want.
But it can be dangerous because painting all women as victims is not helpful for women or for men. As a man, you’re always going to be demonized no matter what you do. Under third-wave feminist rules, you are likely to be written off and demonized for things that are not even malicious, just because you’re a man.
For women, this mentality is not good or helpful. It is not helpful to put someone always in the position of receiving and not giving in a relationship. You’re basically ensuring that the receiver will always remain weak.
This mentality relies on women always being victims. That is not helpful. It is very damaging. Men don’t always think about it that way, because it feels good to be called a feminist. A good man will be good regardless of what he calls himself.
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